Can your attitude toward your former boss determine how long it
takes you to get another job after being laid off? I saw two co-workers lose
their jobs and each handled their feelings toward the company differently.
The first person was (I will call him) Burt. Burt blew up at his boss when he
received the news that he was being laid off. In fact it seemed that for months
after his lay off Burt spent more time letting everyone know how terrible his
boss and the company was then he spent on anything else. It took Burt over a
year to find a new job.
My friend Adam on the other hand, was also not happy about being laid off.
However, rather than spend his time complaining about unjustly losing his job,
he aggressively searched for a new job, participated in job fairs, and went on
job interviews. Adam found a new job in only two months.
I honestly believe both men had a reasonable excuse to be upset about losing
their jobs, considering both were long time employees and actively made positive
contributions to the company. However, one of them put his negative feelings
aside and focused on the more important task: finding new work. In fact, he did
it 10 months sooner than the other man.
Dan Miller told an interesting story during his May 6, 2011 podcast about wasted
energy on negative emotions. He said that when he was a kid he was out with a
friend who got bit by a snake. Miller stated his gut reaction was to chase the
snake with the intent of finding it and punishing it. His friend, however, sat
down and cut the snake bite with a knife and sucked out the poison rather than
chasing the snake.
What the snake did was wrong, but the reality was that the boy who had been bit
would be far better off using his energy to remove the poison then hunting for
the snake in order to get vengeance. The same is true when losing your job. When
getting the news that you are losing your job you may want to lash out at the
company, but at this point that will not get you anything. Your energy will be
better spent on positive actions that will help put you in a better position to
bounce back quicker.
What are you focusing on that is doing nothing but wasting your time?